Emotionally Focused Therapy for Relationships (EFT)
Our planet is only as healthy as the connections we nurture with each other.
When our closest relationships feel secure, we are more resilient, compassionate, and able to thrive in every part of life.
My approach with couples and families is informed by my training in systems theory. This means that I focus on the in-between space—the way you interact with and respond to one another—to understand what’s getting in the way of your connection.
Together, we are going to understand not only your behaviors, but the emotional needs underneath. We will move away from defense, criticism, or shutdown and move into more open, vulnerable dialogue to foster empathy, trust, and deeper communication.
Whether you are romantic partners, business partners, close friends, or family members, therapy can help you recognize patterns of disconnection and guide you toward deeper, more secure emotional bonds.
COMMON ISSUES:
“We keep having the same fight and don’t know how to stop.”
“One of us wants more sex than the other.”
“There’s been a betrayal, and we’re struggling to rebuild trust.”
“We feel emotionally disconnected or distant.”
“Our communication feels defensive, critical, or avoidant.”
“We’re not sure if we should stay together or separate.”
IN OUR WORK TOGETHER, YOU LEARN TO:
Identify and interrupt negative cycles that keep you stuck
Rebuild safety, trust, and emotional connection
Navigate desire differences and sexual concerns with compassion
Express needs without blame, criticism, or shutdown
Hold space for grief, uncertainty, and life transitions
Create more vulnerable, secure ways of connecting
HOW THE PROCESS WORKS:
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I’ll meet with you and your partner (sibling, parent, child, romantic parter) for a free 15 minute consult to get a sense of what type of support you might be needing, and for you to see if I might be a good fit.
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We’ll spend an hour together (virtually or in person) and start mapping out the places where you get stuck. We’ll also highlight the strengths in your relationship so that you can harness them when disconnection arises.
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The messages you received about how to show and give love follow us throughout our lives. After our first session, you will each meet with me individually so that we can go over your family and relationship history and see what you might be bringing into your relationship that contributes to your part of the cycle of disconnection.
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Our fourth session is a feedback session, where we go through everything we’ve gathered so far about the way you connect, and the changes you’d like to see. We’ll all get on the same page about how to move forward, and continue meeting regularly to make sure we help you reach your goals.
Why Emotionally Focused Therapy?
Research shows that EFT is highly effective:
70–75% of couples move from distress to recovery with EFT
90% of couples report significant improvements in their relationship
Studies show these changes last, with many couples continuing to grow stronger over time